Everyone says that those first few weeks of a relationship are the best part – aka, the honeymoon period, but I disagree. While I loved the time me and my boyfriend, now finacé, had at the very start of our relationship, and the fun, flirting and excitement that came with it. I wouldn’t go back there for anything, as I love where we are now.
Nearly three years on from our first date, we’re engaged, have a beautiful home, and are incredibly happy together. Yes, we argue, just like all couples do, but where we are now is 100 times better than when our relationship first started. We have spent the last three years getting to know each other, and we now know everything that there is to know and have no secrets.
That being said, after three years together, we have to work at our relationship. It’s far too easy to take your partner for granted, when you are used to spending all of your time with them. We want our relatinship to go the distance, and we know that to do that, we have to make an effort. Our goal is always to ensure that the spark between us – the fun and the flirting that we share, is kept alive.
If you are in a long-term relationship, and want to make sure that the magic stays alive, here’s what you need to do. (These are all things that I swear by…)
Put down your phones
When you are spending time together, putting down your phonce can make a big difference. We live in a world where we are glued to our phones most of the time, which can lead to feelings of resentment in a relationship. When we are doing things as a couple – going for dinner or playing a round of golf, one of us being on our phones, can spoil it.
The next time that you and your partner are spending some quality time together, make sure that you both put your phones down. If you aren’t multi-tasking between your Facebook account and your partner, you won’t be able to concentrate on connecting with your partner. Leave your phones alone and spend time with just each other for company, and you’ll soon find your spark, again.
Make date night a regular thing
Your lives might be busy, but it’s important if you want a healthy relationship, that you make time for date night. In a long-term relationship, it’s far too easy to spend every night on the sofa, instead of going out and having fun together. No matter how long you and your partner have been together, dating on a regular basis, should be part of your relationship.
Book a table at your favourite restaurant – mine and my fiancé’s is Jamie’s Italian, we love the food there, and spend the evening enjoying some quality time together. Head to the cinema to see a movie, snuggle up in the theatre, just like you would on a first date. Pop out for cocktails, spend an evening enjoying a few drinks, while chatting about anything and everything.
Try something new together
An excellent way to keep the spark alive is trying something new – the more fun and exciting, the better. Me and my fiancé recently took up golf – it’s a lot more fun than you would think, and it’s brought us much closer together. Sharing a hobby is great, as we spend much more time together, and get to have a laugh while doing it.
Whether you and your partner choose to take up golf, or another sport, or plan a trip to a place that you’ve never been to, it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you try something new together, and bond while doing it.
Whether he surprises you with a bunch of flowers or a box of your favourite chocolates, it’s a gesture that is always appreciated. It can be hard to surprise your partner – men are incredibly fussy, but it is doable.
Slip a cute note in his coat pocket. Hire his favourite movie and snacks, and plan a surprise movie night. Buy lingerie and surprise him by stripping off before bed – he’ll think it’s the best surprise ever. He might not appreicate flowers, but there are plenty of simple ways that you can surprise him.
Have fun together
The most important thing that you can do to make sure that your relationship goes the distance is have fun together. Couples who laugh together, stay together, so make an effort to have more fun with each other. Mess around, tickle each other, go out on group dates, and most importantly enjoy being together.
Me and my fiancé have a lot of fun together. We spend time watch comedy, rolling down the local hill – yes, this has happened on many occasions, play fighting, and just spending time being together. We aren’t too serious with each other, we know how to have fun, and don’t care about what other people think.